Alright parents! We’re back this week with a part 2 of the parenting habits you need to quit right now.
This week we’re discussing the next 4 habits that you should try and delete from your normal routine asap. Again, this will not only be beneficial for your kids but also give you some of your own time back. Let’s jump in.
*Parenting Habit 5: Homeschooling without a structure.
This is a huge one that would help all parents everywhere. You need to have a structure in place this year for homeschooling or remote learning. This will truly turn your entire homeschooling experience around, which is one of the hardest things plaguing parents in 2020.
The most difficult part of remote learning for kids is that there was never a transition that occurred to help them get used to it, and same goes for you. So it ends up being a chaotic experience for everyone with participants that have never engaged with this kind of learning before.
The number one thing you can do to make homeschooling a success is to create a routine for your kids to follow. We’ve already discussed the importance of a home routine in last week’s post and it’s no different here.
If you want your kids to get through something as functionally as possible, then having a consistent routine that you follow everyday will help them do that. It helps map out your kids day by letting them know what to expect, and provides them with the objectives and goals you expect from them.
However, again, this must be consistent.
What is creating the most havoc in households right now is that the children have no routine when it comes to homeschooling. If they are waking up and watching tv one morning, then doing homeschooling the next morning, then commuting to grandpa’s the following morning while having breakfast, it’s all just going to be too much.
If you want to get through this year with a positive remote learning/homeschooling experience for your kids, then quit not having a routine. Help them out by creating a sense of normalcy each day when it comes to their learning.
*Parenting Habit 6: Lack of co-parenting.
This is a serious issue right now plaguing many families. This is also not just directed to single parent households. This applies to all types of households.
Within the home the balance of responsibilities have to be divided in a way that is fair to both parents. With the onset of Covid, those parent responsibilities have most likely been flipped upside down. However, it does not mean that one parent juggles all the new responsibilities at home while the other continues to keep the same schedule.
During these hard times, where everything changes day to day, it is so important to communicate with your partner to make sure everything still gets done in the calmest and smoothest way possible.
And if your co-parent doesn’t live in the home, it’s still just as important to keep that communication line open. Even if it’s hard. If you want to keep any form of patience and sanity during these times, keep that line open. You’ll be happy you did. Everyone’s world has been altered and it’s important to work together to try and get some form of normalcy.
So talk with you co-parent, let them know what you need and let them tell you what they need. Then try and figure out a routine that works for both of you. But, if you keep taking it on by yourself you’ll be burnt out fast and your family dynamic will suffer.
Make sure you co-parent together as one unit. You can do this!
*Parenting Habit 7: Quit feeling sorry for yourself.
Okay, I know this one sounds harsh but I’m going to keep it short and sweet. Everyone is suffering at some point in their lives. You’re not special in that way. Everyone goes through it. But what you need to realize is that sitting there and having a personal pity party will not change anything.
You need to experience the emotion, and then move through it. Use it as fuel to the fire and be better for it. Whatever the issue may be, don’t let it get you down for longer than it needs to.
And respond with determination and motivation. You’ll be happy you did and a year from now you can be in an entirely different place mentally, emotionally and more. Look forward to that. Look forward to moving beyond and being a better parent, a better you, whatever that looks like for you and your family.
*Parenting Habit 8: Not having personal “me” time.
We are ending on a habit that so many parents are struggling with right now and that is not making time for yourself. Quit it!
All parents need to quit not having some time for themselves, for their spouse and for their relationship. It’s critical, especially in moments of stress, not to forget about yourselves. Please parents, make time for yourself.
I know there is so much going on right now but you have to think of it this way, you are, most likely, the engine behind your families motion. And engines break down when overheated, overworked, and exhausted. And you don’t want that to become you. But it can happen and that’s what we want to avoid. Please make time for yourselves.
Heck, if you’re reading this post about how to better your parenting habits you’re still kinda working. But I’m telling you here, take time for yourself. It’s of utter importance.
No one can go 24/7 and no one should. Especially a parent! Even in times of stress and uncertainty, its still important to prioritize your “me time”. You have to be able to recharge your batteries, take a nap, and calm your energy so you can be the best and well rested parent for your kids.
By over exhausting yourself you won’t feel like you and you won’t be able to provide for your family in the same way. So relax, rest, and find some “me time” every day. I know to some it may sound impossible, but it’s also your job to make it possible.
*Summary
There you have it parents, the 8 parenting habits you need to quit now. And trust me, if you do, your entire family will be happier for it. Inspire learning and love in your home, even in times of stress. Do this for your kids and for yourself. And quitting these habits are the first step in getting there.
If you haven’t read part 1 yet be sure to visit that post too! You can find the link just at the top of this post.
And as always, If you have any questions, comments, or ideas please share them in the comments section below with your fellow parents! And definitely subscribe to the newsletter for updates and ongoing happenings at TylekTeaches.com. The subscription link is just at the bottom of this post.
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